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THE GREATEST SPIN ON YOUR LIFE

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 14, 2017

Click miketz 2017 to download THE GREATEST SPIN ON YOUR LIFE Parashat Miketz The Beit Yosef asks, Why do we celebrate the miracle of the candles for eight days? There was no miracle on the first day, for all candles burn, naturally. So why don’t we celebrate only seven days? The answer of R Tzadok is a…

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THE RESPONSIBILITY OF COULD

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 6, 2017

Click vayeshev 2017 for Parasha download THE RESPONSIBILITY OF COULD Parashat Vayeshev Anyone who blesses Yehuda is disgusting to G-d. (Sanhedrin 6b) If Yehuda had the power to persuade his brothers to sell Yosef, he had the power to bring Yosef back to his father, as well. (Rashi ibid.) And because he did not take responsibility when…

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WORK SMARTER / PRAY HARDER

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 30, 2017

click vayishlach 2017 for pdf download WORK SMARTER / PRAY HARDER Parashat Vayishlach How does a person know if he is doing the right amount of Hishtadlut, or if he is overdoing it? This is the million dollar question, and one of the most common dilemmas of every-day life. It has ramifications in all areas of…

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A JEW OF ANOTHER LEVEL

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 22, 2017

click vayetze 2017 for pdf download A JEW OF ANOTHER LEVEL Parashat Vayetze Rachel gave her sister, Leah, the Simanim. She taught her the laws of family purity, of challah and of lighting candles. She could not bear to see her sister go through the embarrassment of Yaakov’s discovering that it was Leah, not Rachel, under…

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THE FULLY CHARGED LIFE

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 16, 2017

Click toldot 2017 to download PDF THE FULLY CHARGED LIFE Parashat Toldot Everyone who walks theארץ , the land, has a רצון, a will. Ask anyone you meet what would be the greatest thing that he could achieve over the next 5 years. You will always get some sort of answer, of some sort of dream,…

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AN 18 YEAR OLD SHAWARMA

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 9, 2017

Click chaye sarah 2017 to download AN 18 YEAR OLD SHAWARMA Parashat Chaye Sarah Coaching yeshiva students is my life’s passion. Usually, students fall out of “ben Torah performance” because of two factors: lack of academic achievement and lack of social blending. If one of these two is still in force, the academic or social factor,…

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MEETING WITH G-D

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 31, 2017

Click vayera 2017 for PDF download MEETING WITH G-D Parashat Vayera There was a great man I remember from my childhood, Jack Adjmi, of blessed memory. He was my best friend’s grandpa.  He gave substantial amounts of charity to the shuls I grew up in. I remember how, when eulogizing him, one of his sons quoted…

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IN THE MERIT OF EMUNAH

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 25, 2017

click lech lecha 2017 for pdf download IN THE MERIT OF EMUNAH Parashat Lech Lecha Last week, at the Shabbat meal, my son came back from shul and told us all this incredible story: There was a philanthropist from America who was very close to R’ Elyashiv, and every time he came for a visit, he gave…

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HEAVYWEIGHT WHOS

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 19, 2017

HEAVYWEIGHT WHOS Parashat Noach Television, radio, advertising, movies, the Internet, newspapers, magazines, all reflect and create the culture we live in. Our emotions, opinions, and behaviors are all dependent on the culture we are part of, and our choices are dependent on whatever is the status quo of our emotions, opinions and our behaviors. The result…

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YOM KIPPUR, SHABBAT AND HYDROGEN BOMBS

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 28, 2017

click yom kippur 2017 for PDF download YOM KIPPUR, SHABBAT AND HYDROGEN BOMBS Yom Kippur Too often in life, we focus on the “what”, and forget about the who, the when and the where. So many times in life, it is not about what you did, it is about who you are that did it, when and…

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THE EQUILIBRIUM HOLIDAY

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 14, 2017

click  rosh hashana 2017 for pdf download THE EQUILIBRIUM HOLIDAY Rosh Hashana Rosh Hashana is the holiday of mixed emotions.  It is a day of precise judgment, but yet a day of joy. A day to tap into our humility, while we celebrate it as a holiday. I always had a hard time figuring out what state…

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THE CHAFETZ CHAIM’S FEAR

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 6, 2017

ki tavo 2017 pdf download THE CHAFETZ CHAIM’S FEAR Parashat Ki Tavo I wanted to test-drive this article with a mother of children; at first, she said she didn’t want to hear anything about it. But, in the end, she was happy she listened… I started with the Rambam.  השמחה שישמח אדם בעשיית המצוה ובאהבת…

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OLAM HABA EYEBALLS

By Yosef Farhi | Aug 31, 2017

 ki tetze 2017 pdf download   OLAM HABA EYEBALLS Parashat Ki Tetze I recently realized what my biggest life problem is. Why I can’t focus in davening and learning. Why I can’t forgive and forget. Why I can’t make those important decisions in life when faced with crisis, or deal with conflict and chaos. It is…

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Oh My G-d!

By Yosef Farhi | Aug 28, 2017

 Oh My G-d! Parashat Shoftim One of the most powerful parts of Selichot is, שומר ישראל שמור שארית ישראל ואל יאבד ישראל האומרים בכל יום שמע ישראל.  Oh! Watcher of Israel, Watch over the remainder of Israel, and do not allow Israel to be lost, those who say each day, Shema Yisrael. The power we…

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JUDAISM 50% OFF

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 21, 2017

JUDAISM 50% OFF Three Weeks In this week’s Parasha, the Midrash says אֶ֚לֶף לַמַּטֶּ֔ה אֶ֖לֶף לַמַּטֶּ֑ה לְכֹל֙ מַטּ֣וֹת יִשְׂרָאֵ֔ל תִּשְׁלְח֖וּ לַצָּבָֽא: When Moshe sent men from the Tribes to fight against Moab, G-d told him to send out a thousand from each Tribe, a thousand from each Tribe, for all the Tribes of Israel, you…

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RELIGION OR RELATIONSHIP?

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 12, 2017

RELIGION OR RELATIONSHIP? Parashat Pinhas Many rabbis are of the opinion that Eliyahu Hanavi was originally Pinchas. The Baal Haturim points to the words in the beginning of this week’s Parasha, לָכֵ֖ן אֱמֹ֑ר הִנְנִ֨י נֹתֵ֥ן ל֛וֹ אֶת־בְּרִיתִ֖י שָׁלֽוֹם and makes note of the small letter Vav in the word שלום . The Vav is mentioned…

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THE WAY HEAVEN WORKS

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 7, 2017

THE WAY HEAVEN WORKS Parashat Balak There is a power that is the greatest power in the Universe. It is a power that we all have at our disposal, 24/7. With this power, we are able to change our destiny. We are able to accomplish the unconceivable. We are able to change the world. The…

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ALLOWING G-D TO DO HIS THING

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 30, 2017

ALLOWING G-D TO DO HIS THING Parashat Hukat לעושה נפלאות גדולות לבדו כי לעולם חסדו To the One Who does great wonders alone, for His kindness is everlasting. (Tehillim 136) The Zohar asks, Why does it say that G-d does His miracles alone? Of course He does everything alone! The answer is that G-d does…

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YOU CAN’T HAVE THE JOB

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 23, 2017

YOU CAN’T HAVE THE JOB Parashat Korach וקרח שפיקח היה מה ראה לשטות הזה? אלא, עינו הטעתו – ראה שלשלת גדולה עומדת הימנו, שמואל ששקול כמשה ואהרן שנאמר(תהלים צט): ‘משה ואהרן בכהניו ושמואל בקוראי שמו’ … עשרים וארבעה משמרות עומדות מבני בניו שכולם מתנבאים ברוה”ק… אמר אפשר כל הגדולה הזאת עתידה לעמוד ממני ואני אדום? Korah…

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WITH R’ ARUSH IN THE FOREST

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 15, 2017

WITH R’ ARUSH IN THE FOREST Parashat Shlach Not listening to music in  Sefirah is something I have difficulty with. I need music to relax while driving, to block out noise when writing in my house, and so I asked a friend what he listens to in Sefirah. He pulled a disc out of his…

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DO LESS. BE MORE.

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 6, 2017

DO LESS. BE MORE. Parashat B’haalotcha The other day, I was speaking to the head of a yeshiva of about 150 boys. He sounded so calm and collected on the phone. So, I asked him how he stays so relaxed. How does he manage his stress? I wished I could be less stressful, myself! What…

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WISHING TO BE A JANITOR

By Yosef Farhi | May 24, 2017

WISHING TO BE A JANITOR Shavuoth Shavuoth is more than a holiday. It is a day of judgement. The Talmud tells us that on Shavuoth the world is judged, regarding the trees (Rosh Hashana 16a). And we know,כי האדם עץ השדה  For Man is the tree of the field (Shoftim 20;19). According to the Zohar,…

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GET OFF MY TRICYCLE!!

By Yosef Farhi | May 17, 2017

 GET OFF MY TRICYCLE!! Parashat Behar Behukotay I remember the first time I decided to help out teenage kids at risk. A certain teenage boy from a religious family, who was “on his way out” of religion, came into my life. I wanted to know whether or not I was wasting my time trying to…

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A Lag B’Omer Lesson

By Yosef Farhi | May 10, 2017

A Lag B’Omer Lesson Parashat Emor I got a call the other day from New York. It was from a girl who was dating, who was confused. “I want to marry a boy that is learning. The boy I am dating wants to learn in Kollel for a few years. But I do not want…

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THE MITZVAH OF TACT

By Yosef Farhi | May 9, 2017

  THE MITZVAH OF TACT Parashat Kedoshim Subtle or seemingly minor grammatical changes can give a completely new meaning to words. The laws of dikduk of the Hebrew language are extremely important, and unfortunately, most people who know Hebrew neither learn them nor know them. A common mistake people make about Lashon Hakodesh is believing that…

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YOUR BIGGEST LIE

By Yosef Farhi | Mar 8, 2017

YOUR BIGGEST LIE Purim There is a mysterious personality in the Purim Story. Hatach. A.k.a. Daniel, the Prophet. He was sent back and forth from Esther to Mordechai, to relay messages. Suddenly, Hatach disappears. Where did he go? According to the Midrash, Haman saw Hatach going back and forth, and he suspected that something fishy…

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LAUGHOTHERAPY

By Yosef Farhi | Mar 1, 2017

   LAUGHOTHERAPY Hodesh Adar Humor is such a powerful tool. It can be used to do the worst things possible, like making a good, kosher, modest woman into a Sotah. (Sotah 7a) And it can do the best possible thing, like getting people interested in learning Torah. (Shabbat 30b) The Baal HaTanya (Chapter 7) writes how…

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WHEN MINORITY WINS

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 22, 2017

WHEN MINORITY WINS Parashat Mishpatim The Grammar laws of the Hebrew Language are so important. אחרי רבים להטות (23:2) Does not mean Follow the majority. Rather it means “Incline toward the majority.”  What is the difference? Why does the Torah use the word incline and not הרוב קובע, the majority wins?  Because the majority does not always…

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By Yosef Farhi | Feb 16, 2017

WHY NOT LIE? Parashat Yitro In his book The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty, Dan Ariely, professor of psychology and behavioral economics at Duke University, scientifically tested in great detail how and why humans lie, and what makes it easier or harder for them to keep to the truth. His research was done on college students.…

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ELEPHANT IN THE LIVING ROOM

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 8, 2017

 ELEPHANT IN THE LIVING ROOM Parashat Beshalach Rabbi Meir the Great, of Premishlan (1703–1773), disciple of the Baal Shem Tov has a great Hassidic twist on the words we say every day in אז ישיר. זה א-לי ואנוהו אלקי אבי וארממנהו. This is my G-d and I will glorify Him, the G-d of my father and I will…

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THE THREE DRIVES OF MAN

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 8, 2017

THE THREE DRIVES OF MAN Parashat Bo Over the last few years, psychology has discovered and revealed what the Torah has been teaching about human behavior for thousands of years. First, psychology taught that material desires were the main motivation for a person’s actions.  Later, an equally powerful drive,  that of the ego, was recognized. …

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By Yosef Farhi | Jan 26, 2017

      BEHIND THE BLUEPRINTS Parashat Vaera The wisest of men said, in Kohelet, (קהלת ב) ופניתי אני לראות חכמה והוללות וסכלות כי מה האדם שיבא אחרי המלך את אשר כבר עשוהו. And I turned to see wisdom, folly and foolishness, for what is left for a man to do, a man who comes after the…

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By Yosef Farhi | Jan 20, 2017

 BEING G-D’S FIRSTBORN Parashat Shemot The hardest question to answer as a religious Jew is, if G-d is everything, and G-d is good, then why is the world so messed up? Why is there so much bad in the world? Couldn’t G-d create a world in which things would just make more sense? The answer…

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By Yosef Farhi | Jan 11, 2017

SOMETHING FOR THE KIDS Parashat Vayechi Someone asked me a few days after Hanukah how my vacation was. I answered that I am still בחפש. (I am still on vacation.) He asked me why I am still on vacation a week after Hanukah. I told him בחפש is also the acronym for the four things…

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A JEW COVERED IN FISH GOOK

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 5, 2017

A JEW COVERED IN FISH GOOK Parashat Vayigash One of the greatest psychological challenges we all deal with throughout life is defining who we are and discovering our value. G-d made Man with a need to feel he has value. This is why when Man cannot find an intrinsic value within himself, he searches for…

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