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BIG-PICTURE THINKING

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 7, 2018

Click toldot 2018 to download BIG-PICTURE THINKING Parashat Toldot Life coaching is simply asking a bunch of not simple questions. In life, if you just focus on the smallest details, you never get the big picture right. The job of the life coach is to bring about bigger picture thinking, and to get the big picture right.…

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A LITTLE LOST

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 31, 2018

click chaye sarah 2018 for download A LITTLE LOST Parashat Chaye Sarah The greatest cause for “midlife crisis” is the belief that you are supposed to be in control. There is no greater haughtiness than the belief that you have your whole life mapped out for you. Life is full of crises, because we are all a…

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THE METHOD TO GREATNESS

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 24, 2018

Click VAYERA 2018 to download THE METHOD TO GREATNESS Parashat Vayera The most confusing thing about humility is the misconception that humility means to be submissive, passive, shattered emotionally, bashful…But it’s the exact opposite! The Jews who made the most notable changes to our nation were those who were most noted for their humility.  Avraham Avinu.…

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THE FIRST TIME

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 16, 2018

click lech lecha 2018 to download THE FIRST TIME Lech Lecha You know, Avraham Avinu, our holy grandfather Avraham Avinu – he prayed to G-d for the first time. You know, thank G-d, you and I have been praying all of our lives. But, did you ever taste the first time? (Shlomo Carlebach) I remember…

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MR. IFONLY

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 11, 2018

MR. IFONLY Parashat Noah Mr. Ifonly sat down and he sighed, “I could have done more, if only I had tried. If only I had followed my true intent. If only I had done the things that I meant. If only I had done the things that I could. And not simply done the things…

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A HUMBLE NATION

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 4, 2018

A HUMBLE NATION Parashat Bereshit If you had one message to pass on to your children, one lesson, one virtue, what would it be? The Ramban, one of our people’s greatest rabbis, left one message to his son, and to all of us, in his Iggeret. Humility. And he promises us that any day that…

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KEEPING TO YOUR SCRIPT

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 13, 2018

click yom kippur 2018 for download    KEEPING TO YOUR SCRIPT Yom Kippur One of the biggest problems facing the Orthodox is not being able to feel closeness with G-d. “Rabbi, I want to feel the Yomim Tovim more, I want my Shabbat table to be more spiritual, I want my prayers to have more fire in…

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THE HUMILITY TACTIC

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 5, 2018

Parashat nitzavim 2018 download THE HUMILITY TACTIC Parashat Nitzavim The clock is ticking. We are in a total lack of control of the time, the judgment, the verdict. All we have for self-defense is Teshuva, Tefillah and Tzeddaka. (Rosh Hashana 16b). Rosh Hashana is coming soon, G-d is going to judge me soon, and some time on…

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G-D’S PROMISE

By Yosef Farhi | Aug 29, 2018

Click ki tavo 2018 to download    G-D’S PROMISE Parashat Ki Tavo In self-help, we are taught that what makes people move, change, become motivated, is from one of two things: either running away from pain, or running towards pleasure. If we would like to discover how this expresses itself in our observance of Judaism, it can translate…

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TESHUVA FOR THE ORTHODOX JEW

By Yosef Farhi | Aug 23, 2018

Click ki tetze 2018 to download   TESHUVA FOR THE ORTHODOX JEW Parashat Ki Tetze Teshuva for the Orthodox Jew is usually more about quality than about quantity. For the Orthodox, Teshuva is more about improving how you do what you do more than it is changing what you do. But Rabbi, my plate is too full! I…

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TO REACH MY SOUL

By Yosef Farhi | Aug 15, 2018

Click Shoftim 2018 to download TO REACH MY SOUL Parashat Shoftim When we think about Elul, the first thing that comes to mind is Teshuva. When we think about Teshuva, the first thing that comes to mind is, I have no idea how to do this. Every year, when we try to interpret Teshuva to ourselves, we…

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FOR THE LOVE OF THE LAND

By Yosef Farhi | Aug 10, 2018

FOR THE LOVE OF THE LAND Parashat Reeh R’ Shlomo Wolbe wrote a fascinating Sefer called המצוות השקולות, The seven Mitzvoth that have Equal Weight. Fulfilling each one of these seven Mitzvoth is equal to fulfilling the entire Torah, all of the 613. 1. Denying Avodah Zarah, 2. Wearing Tzitzit. 3. Shabbat. 4. Torah learning.…

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EGO ON HOLD

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 5, 2018

Click pinhas 2018 to download  EGO ON HOLD Parashat Pinhas Leaders never became leaders by concentrating on their ego. They served the people in some way and became leaders incidentally, somewhere along the process. It is amazing how far we could go in life if we would just put our egos on hold and focus on our…

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IN A DRONE’S EYE VIEW

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 27, 2018

click balak 2018 to download  IN A DRONE’S EYE VIEW Parashat Balak We read in the Haftarah this week. עַמִּ֗י זְכָר־נָא֙ מַה־יָּעַ֗ץ בָּלָק֙ מֶ֣לֶךְ מוֹאָ֔ב וּמֶה־עָנָ֥ה אֹת֖וֹ בִּלְעָ֣ם בֶּן־בְּע֑וֹר מִן־הַשִּׁטִּים֙ עַד־הַגִּלְגָּ֔ל לְמַ֕עַן דַּ֖עַת צִדְק֥וֹת יְקֹוָֽק My nation, please remember what Balak, King of Moab advised, and what Bilaam, son of Beor, answered him from the Shittim until…

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CALM, CONFIDENT AND CONTENT

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 20, 2018

click hukat 2018  for pdf download CALM, CONFIDENT AND CONTENT Parashat Hukat Why did the Jews say Shira in the desert only on the Well of Water, and not on the Mannah? Because about the Mannah, they made tasteless remarks, “And now our souls are dry, there is nothing…”(Bamidbar 11) G-d said, “ I want neither your…

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CHASING SPARKS

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 13, 2018

Click korah 2018 to download CHASING SPARKS Parashat Korah One of the greatest challenges for the spiritual Jew is that after we get inspired, we try to live according to our inspiration for a day or two, but then nothing changes. When bringing up children, when inspiring our students, we face the same dilemma. We get them…

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THE MITZVAH TO BE YOURSELF

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 6, 2018

Click shelach 2018 to download THE MITZVAH TO BE YOURSELF Parashat Shelach At least twice a day, we recite the words  וְלֹֽא־תָת֜וּרוּ אַחֲרֵ֤י לְבַבְכֶם֙ וְאַחֲרֵ֣י עֵֽינֵיכֶ֔ם אֲשֶׁר־אַתֶּ֥ם זֹנִ֖ים אַחֲרֵיהֶֽם. And you shall not wander after your hearts and after your eyes, that you are straying after them. The Netziv brings to our attention a deeper meaning of…

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Humble Power

By Yosef Farhi | May 30, 2018

Click Bhaalotcha 2018 to download HUMBLE POWER Parashat Bhaalotcha Here is the sequence of events discussed towards the end of our Parasha: The Jews complain to Moshe about their heaven-sent Mannah. They would rather have the natural produce from Egypt. They want meat. Moshe tells G-d, “Kill me now; just don’t punish Your people!… I can’t carry the…

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OUT OF CONTROL

By Yosef Farhi | May 23, 2018

Click naso 2018 to download OUT OF CONTROL Why does the Torah put the Nazirite laws immediately after the laws of the Sotah? For if one sees a Sotah in her disgraceful state, he should become a Nazir from wine, so that he does not follow in her ways of immorality. (Berachot 63a, Nazir 2a) Wine, the…

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BOOTLEG TORAH

By Yosef Farhi | May 16, 2018

Click Shavuoth 2018 to download BOOTLEG TORAH Shavuoth Enjoying Torah, making it sweet, is not just Torah with extra credit. Sweet Torah, Torah that is enjoyable, is the only Torah. If it is not sweet, if you do not enjoy it, it is not Torah; it is just a bootleg version of it. A bootleg recording is an audio…

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LIFESTYLES

By Yosef Farhi | May 9, 2018

click behukotay 2018 to download  LIFESTYLES Parashat Behaalotcha One of the biggest problems facing the Orthodox Jew is the belief that a Jew can keep “the 613” while living the lifestyle of “keeping up with the gentiles”. Who is setting the standard of what we want and what we don’t want in life? The way we live,…

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A GOOD HEART

By Yosef Farhi | May 3, 2018

A GOOD HEART Sefirat Haomer The most important word I learnt since I started coaching is the word resourcefulness. Tony Robbins, the world’s leading coach says, When people fail to achieve, they often say they are missing resources like time, money, people and so on. Yet, the top achievers in the world know that resources…

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Love vs. Respect

By Yosef Farhi | Apr 25, 2018

Click Emor 2018 for download  Love vs. Respect Sefirat Haomer Sefirat Haomer is a time of character refinement.  12,000 pairs, 24,000 students of R Akiva, all died at this time for not honoring each other. (Yevamot 62b) The main Avodah during the Omer is to correct that Middah of respect. There are three questions one can ask.…

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THOU SHALT LOVE THY COMPETITOR

By Yosef Farhi | Apr 19, 2018

Click Tazriah – kedoshim 2018 to download  THOU SHALT LOVE THY COMPETITOR Parashat Tazriah Metzorah Rava said: When a person dies and is brought in for his final judgement, he is asked: were you faithful in your business dealings?” (Shabbat 31a) The test of business ethic is the biggest test on a Jew’s fear of G-d.  It…

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STOP OVERTHINKING IT!

By Yosef Farhi | Mar 8, 2018

click vayakhel p 2018 to download   STOP OVERTHINKING IT! Parashat Vayakhel Pekudei Overthinking usually starts from something legitimate, but then it loses boundaries. It is so common for people to overthink in so many areas. Was I guilty? Why did I make such a mistake? Why did others act the way they did, or not even…

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DRESS WELL

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 22, 2018

Click Tezaveh 2018  for download DRESS WELL Parashat Tezaveh It is amazing how much our psychology is dependent on how we dress. What we wear not only tells other people who we are. It is the greatest reflection of your self-perception. So many times, I have found that by helping a person change their wardrobe, they…

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A JEW’S SEARCH FOR SPIRITUALITY

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 15, 2018

Click Terumah 2018 to download A JEW’S SEARCH FOR SPIRITUALITY Parashat Terumah I learnt the following truism from coaching Yeshiva Bachurim and frum people. The Torah Jew is concerned more about finding spirituality in the mundane than he is by anything else. This is an area left uncovered by the psychologists of the world. No matter where…

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WHY LIE?

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 8, 2018

Click mishpatim 2018 for download WHY LIE? Parashat Mishpatim The Maharsha writes the following powerful story in the name of the Baal HaIkrim. There was once a man who was a sinner and a thief who came to a wise man to do Teshuvah. But he could not take on himself all of the laws of the…

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THE ARAB NEXT DOOR

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 1, 2018

Click Yitro 2018  to download  THE ARAB NEXT DOOR Parashat Yitro There were three advisers to Pharaoh in the plot against the Jews. Bilaam, Iyob, and Yitro. Bilaam advised to enslave the Jews. Iyob kept quiet. Yirto ran away. Bilaam was punished; he was killed by the sword by the Jews. Iyob suffered for not protesting.…

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MY BELOVED, MY HORSE

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 24, 2018

click beshalach 2018 to download MY BELOVED, MY HORSE Parashat Beshalach There is a module I have discovered that is effective for change in any life area. I call it Triple A. Awareness. Acceptance. Action. First, we need to have awareness of the situation. The problem. The challenge. The options. The strengths and weakness. The powers that…

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EMOTIONAL OXYGEN TUBES

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 18, 2018

Click Parashat Bo 2018 for download  EMOTIONAL OXYGEN TUBES Parashat Shemot At the beginning of the Parasha, before the plague of the locust, G-d tells Moshe, לְמַ֡עַן תְּסַפֵּר֩ בְּאָזְנֵ֨י בִנְךָ֜ וּבֶן־בִּנְךָ֗. I will bring these plagues on Pharoah, in order for you to tell of it in the ears of your children and grandchildren.  What was so…

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THE WATER IN YOUR STRAW

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 11, 2018

Click Vaera 2018 to download THE WATER IN YOUR STRAW Parashat Vaera The best producers, artists and authors know how to give the illusion that something inanimate is actually alive. So, too, G-d created the world with the illusion that it is independent of Him. This is what is meant, in the words of the Talmud, that…

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BEATING THE SYSTEM

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 4, 2018

Click shemot 2018 for download BEATING THE SYSTEM Parashat Shemot There is a sad joke that goes around the yeshiva world each year at this time. Ben Hazmanim usually starts with a fast. Tisha BAv , Yom Kippur, Taanit Esther. And Sof Zman, the beginning of the end, the decline of momentum for the weaker boys, is…

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YEHUDA – I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 28, 2017

Click vayechi 2017 -2018 for download YEHUDA – I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU Parashat Vayechi Yosef’s last wish was to be buried in Eretz Yisrael. He made his brothers swear that when G-d would remember them and take them out of Egypt , they would take his bones along with them, at the Exodus. He told them,…

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THE POWER OF N.A.G.

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 21, 2017

click vayigash 2017  to download THE POWER OF N.A.G. Parashat Vayigash Self-help that the Torah offers is always more effective and genuine than the self-help ideas of the Gentiles. It is always an octave above. That is the idea of eight nights of Chanukkah, and it is the concept that we fought the Greeks about. We…

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