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THE ART OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 22, 2020

click vaera 2020 for download THE ART OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION Parashat Vaera Effective communication is the key to success in so many life areas. How do we improve our communication skills? Where does one start? An excellent place to begin is with the Meshech Hochma in this week’s Parasha. Moshe claimed to G-d that there…

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THE ART OF EMPATHY

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 16, 2020

click shemot 2020 for download THE ART OF EMPATHY Parashat Shemot וּמֹשֶׁ֗ה הָיָ֥ה רֹעֶ֛ה אֶת־צֹ֛אן יִתְר֥וֹ חֹתְנ֖וֹ כֹּהֵ֣ן מִדְיָ֑ן וַיִּנְהַ֤ג אֶת־הַצֹּאן֙ אַחַ֣ר הַמִּדְבָּ֔ר וַיָּבֹ֛א אֶל־הַ֥ר הָאֱלֹהִ֖ים חֹרֵֽבָה: And Moshe was shepherding his father in law Yitro’s flock, and he led the flock after the desert, and he came to the mountain of G-d in Horeb. (Shemot 3;1)…

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HOW TO SOLVE EVERYONE’S PROBLEMS

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 8, 2020

Click vayechi 2020 for dowload HOW TO SOLVE EVERYONE’S PROBLEMS Parashat Vayechi Unfortunately, we can’t solve most of the problems of most of the people in our lives. Unfortunately, there is only a certain amount of charity we can give, only a certain amount of extra time and energy we have. Unfortunately, there is only…

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THE ART OF BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 18, 2019

Click  for SUPER expanded vayeshev / Chanuka download THE ART OF BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF Parashat Vayeshev Honesty is a huge part of self- improvement. To be honest with yourself means to examine your personal narrative. Subconsciously, people tell themselves stories about themselves. Some stories are true, and some are not. Our stories came from different places,…

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THE ART OF RESILIENCE

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 11, 2019

Click Vayishlach for download THE ART OF RESILIENCE Parashat Vayishlach People that can keep their calm have what psychologists call resilience, or an ability to cope with problems and setbacks. A loss of a job, a breakup of a relationship, health issues, difficulties raising children… We can’t prevent such things from happening, but we can improve the…

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HOW TO CONTROL YOUR EGO

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 4, 2019

Click Vayetze 2019 for download HOW TO CONTROL YOUR EGO Parashat Vayetze A Jew once said to his Rebbe, “I want happiness”. The Rebbe said, First remove “I”, that’s Ego. And then remove “Want”, that’s Desire. See, now all your left with is Happiness! Once, someone sent the Lubavitcher Rebbe a letter. “I have no…

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 LOVE WHAT IS

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 27, 2019

click toldot 2019 final for download  LOVE WHAT IS Parashat Toldot The Chafetz Chaim once asked a certain Jew how he was doing. The man said, “It would not hurt if life were a bit better.” The Chafetz Chaim responded, “How could you possibly know that “it would not hurt” if life would be better?…

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Kindness – Inside Out

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 20, 2019

Click chaye sara 2019 for  download  Kindness – Inside Out Parashat Chaye Sarah R’ Chaim Vital, student of Arizal was quoted saying something that I hope I will never forget.  There are people who perform acts of kindness with everyone, but with their own families, they do not do kindness. They think to themselves that…

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SAVE THE MOMENT

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 13, 2019

Click vayera 2019 expanded for download SAVE THE MOMENT Parashat Vayera In 1974, Cat’s in the Cradle was the hit song of the day, a song that hit the cords of the hearts of many dads. Here are the lyrics – a real tear jerker. If you know the words, sing them again, so you…

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UNDERSTOOD. RESPECTED. LIKED.

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 6, 2019

click lech lecha 2019 for download UNDERSTOOD. RESPECTED. LIKED. Parashat Lech Lecha R Nissim Karelitz Zt”l was once asked the reason why some marriages are not blessed with  tranquility. Is it a budgeting issue? A cultural issue? Technology? A deficiency in communication skills? Conflict of interests, beliefs personalities, levels of religion? Or, maybe all of the above?…

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LEAD LIKE A LION

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 30, 2019

click noach 2019 for download LEAD LIKE A LION Parashat Noach Alexander the Great once said, I am not afraid of an army of lions led by a sheep; I am afraid of an army of sheep led by a lion. What are the qualities of lion-leadership, and what type of leaders are “sheep” leaders? A lion-hearted…

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A LIFE AT FULL THROTTLE

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 3, 2019

Click yom kippur 2019 for download A LIFE AT FULL THROTTLE Yom Kippur Are you going through life at the speed limits you set for yourself? Or are you at full throttle? This question has been going through my head over the last two months. And I am so grateful that it has. This is the “charged”…

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A HAPPY ELUL

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 19, 2019

click ki tavo 2019 for download A HAPPY ELUL Teshuva is a happy thing. If you are doing Teshuva and you are not happy, you are not really cashing in on all your benefits. Happiness is what changes the evil decree of sin. Happiness is what brings upon you G-d’s mercy. This is found in Rabbenu Bachye…

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A CALM ELUL

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 11, 2019

click ki tetze 2019 for download A CALM ELUL It has been said that one who says Psalm 27 every day in Elul is promised that he will live his full amount of allotted years and days in a good way, and he will overpower all the prosecuting angels against him, and will merit in judgement.(Siddur Arizal)…

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TWO WAYS TO TESHUVA

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 4, 2019

Click shoftim 2019 final to download TWO WAYS TO TESHUVA Parashat Shoftim I was looking for the switch that could take me – overnight – from summer break mode directly into Elul self-perfection mode. I found it. Yishai Ribo’s new song, called Seder HaAvodah, brought me to Elul mode. The music, enchanting. The words, tear jerking. ואם…

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YOU ARE WHAT YOU SAY

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 31, 2019

Click Mattot- Masei 2019 for download YOU ARE WHAT YOU SAY  Mattot   Your speech defines who you are. Like it or not. The Shlah Hakodosh wrote, the very saying Be’ezrat Hashem, Bsiyata Dishmaya, (with the help of Heaven,) before everything that you do, has in it the power to help you, and to make you successful,…

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WHY ME?

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 24, 2019

click pinhas – mattot 2019 for download WHY ME? Parashat Pinhas In his book, Learned Optimism, Martin Selegman, the forefather of modern-day positive psychology, breaks down positive thinking to 3 P’s.  Permanent – Is the problem/offense/issue at hand one that is permanent? Pervasive – Is the problem/offense/issue at hand perceived as bigger than it really is? Personal…

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THE POWER OF DESIRE

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 17, 2019

click balak pinhas  to download THE POWER OF DESIRE Parashat Balak My life’s passion is helping kids from all over the world, of all ages, to improve their reading skills in Hebrew and English. Helping them to focus, to enrich their comprehension, increase speed and to acquire a burning thirst for learning. One of the biggest problems…

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THE POWER OF THE JEWISH NATION

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 10, 2019

click hukat balak 2019 to download     THE POWER OF THE JEWISH NATION Hukat The commentators deal with the puzzling question of why Moshe lost his chance to bring the Jews into Israel, just because he hit a rock. The Torah says, יַ֚עַן לֹא־הֶאֱמַנְתֶּ֣ם בִּ֔י לְהַ֨קְדִּישֵׁ֔נִי לְעֵינֵ֖י בְּנֵ֣י יִשְׂרָאֵ֑ל לָכֵ֗ן לֹ֤א תָבִ֙יאוּ֙ אֶת־הַקָּהָ֣ל הַזֶּ֔ה אֶל־הָאָ֖רֶץ אֲשֶׁר־נָתַ֥תִּי…

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CONDUCTOR LEADERSHIP

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 19, 2019

Click Behaalotcha- Shelah 2019 to download CONDUCTOR LEADERSHIP Parashat Behaalotcha My mother sent me a speech given by a music conductor. This is what the conductor told his audience. “At the age of 45, I had already been conducting for more than 20 years, and suddenly, I was struck by this fascinating insight: the conductor of…

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The Self Help Addict

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 12, 2019

Click Naso- post Shavuot 2019 for download The Self Help Addict Parashat Naso There is an obvious question regarding Birkat Kohanim. If G-d wants to bless the people, why does He need to do so through the kohanim? Why does He need messengers? How could it be that a Gadol HaDor who is a Yisrael needs to…

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YETZER HARA LEMONADE

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 5, 2019

click Kabalat HaTorah 2019 to download YETZER HARA LEMONADE Erev Shavuot One of the greatest gifts G-d gave you in life is your Yetzer Hara. The Midrash teaches us, :”וַיַּרְא אֱלֹקים אֶת כָּל אֲשֶׁר עָשָׂה וְהִנֵּה טוֹב מְאֹד”- And G-d saw all that He made, and it was very good. ‘וְהִנֵּה טוֹב’- זה ‘היצר הטוב’. ‘וְהִנֵּה טוֹב…

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A CONNECTION TO G-D

By Yosef Farhi | May 29, 2019

click sefirat haomer 2019 for download A CONNECTION TO G-D One of the amazing things that happened to me in Miami was a conversation I had on the way to the airport with the Uber driver, an African American. “Are you a Rabbi?” I try to be. I try to help people get closer to their…

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A CONNECTION TO G-D

By Yosef Farhi | May 29, 2019

A CONNECTION TO G-D One of the amazing things that happened to me in Miami was a conversation I had on the way to the airport with the Uber driver, an African American. “Are you a Rabbi?” I try to be. I try to help people get closer to their Creator, through words of Torah.…

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BIRDFATE

By Yosef Farhi | May 26, 2019

BIRDFATE At the end of a thirteen-year cave life, R’ Shimon Bar Yochai sat at the entrance to what had been his “home”. He saw a hunter who was setting up a bird trap. The hunter scattered some seeds, so that birds would be attracted to the trap, going for the bait. R Shimon noticed…

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THE WORLD’S GREATEST ARTIST

By Yosef Farhi | May 15, 2019

click emor 2019 to download THE WORLD’S GREATEST ARTIST Sefirat Haomer I heard the most beautiful idea from my neighbor, Dan Gordon, one of the best landscapers in Jerusalem and a Shemitta specialist. This idea is an idea that one can meditate on for hours. Chana praised G-d, saying: אֵין קָדוֹשׁ כַּה’ כִּי אֵין בִּלְתֶּךָ, וְאֵין צוּר…

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MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL

By Yosef Farhi | May 8, 2019

click sefirat haomer 2019 for download MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL Sefirat Haomer   King Solomon’s famous life mantra seems a little strange. כַּ֭מַּיִם הַפָּנִ֣ים לַפָּנִ֑ים כֵּ֤ן לֵֽב־הָ֝אָדָ֗ם לָאָדָֽם  As water reflects one’s face, so too, the heart of one man reflects the heart of another. (Mishlei 27; 19) If someone is not being nice to…

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THE POWER TO IGNORE

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 27, 2019

Click vayakhel 2019 to download THE POWER TO IGNORE Parashat Vayakhel King Solomon taught מְתוּקָה֙ שְׁנַ֣ת הָעֹבֵ֔ד אִם־מְעַ֥ט וְאִם־הַרְבֵּ֖ה יֹאכֵ֑ל וְהַשָּׂבָע֙ לֶֽעָשִׁ֔יר אֵינֶ֛נּוּ מַנִּ֥יחַֽ ל֖וֹ לִישֽׁוֹן׃  The sleep of a laboring man is sweet, whether he eat little or much; but the satiety of the rich will not let him sleep. A poor man does not lose…

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ANTICIPATION THERAPY

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 20, 2019

click ki tisa 2019 for download ANTICIPATION THERAPY Parashat Ki Tisa Happiness is something that will help us in so many life areas. The Arizal was quoted as saying that sadness is what ruins a person’s Parnassah. And when a person brings happiness into his life, he brings Parnassah. This is hinted at in the end letters…

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G-d’s Encrypted Messages

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 13, 2019

Click Tezaveh 2018 for pdf download G-d’s Encrypted Messages Parashat Tezaveh One of the most interesting items in the garments of the Kohen Gadol was the Urim Vetumim. What exactly was the Urim Vetumim? There was a parchment between the garment that held the Choshen, and the Choshen with the array of twelve stones. This parchment that…

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UNLIMITED POWER

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 23, 2019

Click YITRO 2019 for download UNLIMITED POWER Parashat Yitro The greatest sin a parent can be guilty of is not making a child aware of the power he possesses. There is no power in the world that can cure like saying the blessing Asher Yatzar after using the WC. The Seder Hayom (time of Arizal) wrote that…

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KEEP CLIMBING

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 16, 2019

click beshalach 2019 to print  KEEP CLIMBING Parashat Beshalach R’ Abraham J Twerski – “People often ask me, ‘Is it true that you’ve written over fifty books? How did you find time, with your busy schedule, to write so many books?’ I tell them that I did not really write fifty books. I wrote one book, in…

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Striving to Serve

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 9, 2019

click bo 2019 to download  Striving to Serve Parashat Bo So many Mitzvot are Zecher Leyitziat Mizrayim. Kiddush, Sukkot, Pesach, Tefillin, Bechor, Petter Chamor, Kriat Shema, etc. The list of reminders doesn’t end. Why do we keep reminding ourselves of the Exodus from Mitzrayim? And why is it so important? The Sifri writes why so many Mitzvot…

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AN INVISIBLE STAR

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 27, 2018

AN INVISIBLE STAR Parashat Shemot In 1973, in the summer, I was sitting, on my porch, on vacation, in Miami Beach. Looking up, at the beautiful sky, so many beautiful stars, and Hashem gave me an idea for a song. That the reason why we do not see some of the stars, is because we…

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THE ETERNAL INTERNAL CONFLICT

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 19, 2018

click vayechi 2018- 2019 to download THE ETERNAL INTERNAL CONFLICT Parashat Vayechi When you think of all your inner conflicts and put them out there on paper, you will notice how many there are. Should I stay later at the party, or should I get up early to pray like a mentsch?  Should I protect my best…

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