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THE ART OF ACCEPTING JUDGEMENT

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 21, 2022

click rosh hashana 2022 to download THE ART OF ACCEPTING JUDGEMENT The opening of the Heichal, the Ark, before taking out the Sifrei Torah, is considered a powerful time to pray, an עת רצון. It is then that Hashem loves us most, as it is a time of a great Mitzvah. Just like for a…

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THE ART OF BEING GRATEFUL

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 14, 2022

  CLICK  ki tavo 2022 TO DOWNLOAD THE ART OF BEING GRATEFUL Being a husband means you are required to be emotionally intelligent. וכן צוו חכמים שיהיה אדם מכבד את אשתו יתר מגופו ואוהבה כגופו, ואם יש לו ממון מרבה בטובתה כפי הממון, ולא יטיל עליה אימה יתירה ויהיה דיבורו עמה בנחת ולא יהיה עצב…

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THE ART OF DIRECTION

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 7, 2022

click ki tetze 2022 to download THE ART OF DIRECTION For most of us, life can be split into two. The first part of our life, we form habits. The rest of life, we are on autopilot. How we eat, how we think, how we respond, what we value. It’s almost as if we have…

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THE ART OF GETTING INTO THE ELUL VIBE

By Yosef Farhi | Aug 31, 2022

Click shoftim 2022 for download THE ART OF GETTING INTO THE ELUL VIBE Elul is the month of many acronyms, and the most known acronym is,  אני לדודי ודודי לי , I am to my Beloved and my Beloved is to me. Elul is relationship time. There are three types of relationships, only three. Between…

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THE ART OF HUMBLE STEPS

By Yosef Farhi | Aug 19, 2022

click ekev 2022 for download THE ART OF HUMBLE STEPS Humility is the only way to get close to G-d, the only path, the one ladder.  כִּי֩ כֹ֨ה אָמַ֜ר רָ֣ם וְנִשָּׂ֗א שֹׁכֵ֥ן עַד֙ וְקָד֣וֹשׁ שְׁמ֔וֹ מָר֥וֹם וְקָד֖וֹשׁ אֶשְׁכּ֑וֹן וְאֶת־דַּכָּא֙ וּשְׁפַל־ר֔וּחַ לְהַחֲיוֹת֙ ר֣וּחַ שְׁפָלִ֔ים וּֽלְהַחֲי֖וֹת לֵ֥ב נִדְכָּאִֽים: (Yeshayahu 57;15) As holy as G-d is, He is…

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THE ART OF ACCEPTING PEOPLE

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 13, 2022

click pinhas 2022 to download THE ART OF ACCEPTING PEOPLE At least ten people took advantage of my offer last week, that I analyze their handwriting, by sending me their signatures. The analysis has been on an over-90-percent average of accuracy. The same person who taught me graphology taught me how to read people’s personality…

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THE ART OF GRAPHOLOGY

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 6, 2022

click balak 2022 to download THE ART OF GRAPHOLOGY I know this article is long, so if you stick to the end, I have a treat for you. Living in Bayit Vegan, Jerusalem, I have gotten to know some pretty interesting people. The Kollel guy across the street convinced me to try out his courses…

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THE ART OF LIVING

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 29, 2022

click hukat 2022 to download THE ART OF LIVING This Tuesday, I was asked by my family to speak at the Shloshim of my cousin’s son. Yaakov Yisrael Farhi, A”H, was run over by a car, and after his body had fought for months to stay alive, he passed away 30 days ago. The parents,…

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THE ART OF PUBLIC PERSUASION

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 22, 2022

click korah 2022 expanded for download THE ART OF PUBLIC PERSUASION One of the things that always boggled my mind, and the mind of every historian, is how Adolf Hitler, yemah shmo, a man who was no more than a high school dropout, a homeless, an unsuccessful artist, was capable of capturing the intelligent German…

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THE ART OF NOT BEING AFRAID

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 15, 2022

click shlach 2022 final for download THE ART OF NOT BEING AFRAID A person can bring himself miracles, save himself, and protect himself by meditating on the concept of אין עוד מלבדו: there is no power or will in the world, other than the power and will of a One G-d. (Nefesh Hachaim 3;12) No…

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THE ART OF STAYING SANE

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 7, 2022

click behaalotcha 2022 for download THE ART OF STAYING SANE According to Judaism, making money to support your family is as hard as you believe it is. The amount you earn is predetermined, even before you were born, and then predetermined again, each year on Rosh Hashana. Of course, you need to serve your clients,…

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THE ART OF BEING A UNIFIED NATION

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 2, 2022

click shavuoth 2022 expanded for download THE ART OF BEING A UNIFIED NATION Torah and Chessed are one and the same. On the passuk, פִּ֭יהָ פָּתְחָ֣ה בְחָכְמָ֑ה וְתֽוֹרַת־חֶ֝֗סֶד עַל־לְשׁוֹנָֽהּ  ,the Talmud asks, is there such a thing as Torah that is not Torah of Chessed?!? (Succah 49b) The Torah itself begins with Chessed, how G-d…

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THE ART OF BEING A 24/7 JEW

By Yosef Farhi | May 26, 2022

click bamidbar 2022 for download THE ART OF BEING A 24/7 JEW In the days of King Achav, Queen Izevel killed all the prophets, except Eliyahu Hanavi. There were only 7000 Jews in the whole of Israel who did not bow to the Avoda Zara of the day, the Ba’al. Eliyahu decreed that there be…

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THE ART OF CONNECTING TO R’ AKIVA

By Yosef Farhi | May 23, 2022

click behukotay 2022 for download THE ART OF CONNECTING TO R’ AKIVA A popular parasha sheet in Israel wrote something that got me thinking. People go to R’ Shimon Bar Yochai to pray for miracles, borrowing an unrelated terminology from the Talmud, כדאי הוא ר”ש לסמוך עליו בשעת הדחק. (Gittin 19a) It is true. People…

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THE ART OF CREATING ANGELS

By Yosef Farhi | May 11, 2022

click Lag Baomer 2022 for download THE ART OF CREATING ANGELS Orthodox Jews believe, that there is nothing more powerful in the world, than learning Gemarah in a way, that will bring clarity to the actual Halacha. The back and forth, the questions and the answers, the give and take of the commentators and how…

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THE ART OF BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR THE WORLD

By Yosef Farhi | May 3, 2022

click Emor and Pirkei Avot 2022 to download THE ART OF BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR THE WORLD One of the biggest questions the gentiles have about Judaism is why bad things happen to good people, to Tzaddikim, and good things happen to bad people, to the Reshaim. This question will last only until the days of…

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THE ART OF BUILDING SPIRITUAL SAND CASTLES

By Yosef Farhi | Apr 26, 2022

Click acherei mot kedoshim 2022 for download THE ART OF BUILDING SPIRITUAL SAND CASTLES After Pesach break, it’s hard to get back into learning and onto the spiritual Sefirah-sail to Shavuot, to the upcoming Matan Torah.  Especially when I have to go back to juggling being a husband, father and breadwinner, not to mention my…

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THE ART OF EXPERIENCING SHABBAT HAGADOL

By Yosef Farhi | Apr 6, 2022

THE ART OF EXPERIENCING SHABBAT HAGADOL Click shabbat hagadol for expanded download The Shulhan Aruch (430 O”H) rules that this week is called Shabbat Hagadol, probably hinting that when we bless each other Shabbat Shalom this week, we should be saying Shabbat Hagadol Shalom. There are a number of reasons why this Shabbat is called…

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THE ART OF BEING READY FOR MASHIACH

By Yosef Farhi | Mar 2, 2022

click pekudei 2022 for download THE ART OF BEING READY FOR MASHIACH So, as it seems, Mashiach is around the corner. We have all the signs, again, and from the greatest Rabbis. Are you ready for Eliyahu Hanavi? He is going to ask you, What questions bothered you so long in your Torah learning that…

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THE ART OF MANAGING BEAUTY

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 23, 2022

click vayakhel 2022 for download THE ART OF MANAGING BEAUTY The Eshet Chayil is not a woman of strength, but of valor. Valor is strength of the mind, the ability to face danger and adversity with firmness, bravery and courage. A woman needs valor and courage to dress nicely but modestly, and that courage comes…

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THE ART OF BEING A SQUARE

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 2, 2022

Click terumah 2022 for download THE ART OF BEING A SQUARE G-d created a breathtaking world of patterns, symmetry, colors and shapes. Crown shapes can be found in a water splash, and stunning symmetry can be found in zebras, tigers, starfish and a zoomed-in image of a snowflake. The Nile is so snakelike; sand dunes…

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THE ART OF SENSITIVITY

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 26, 2022

Click mishpatim 2022 to download THE ART OF SENSITIVITY I can never forget how, when I learnt a year in Mikdash Melech, we visited Hacham Ovadia Yosef zt”l before Pesach. A lot of the boys in the yeshiva were on a spiritual high from a winter of learning, and many looked at themselves as fanatical,…

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THE ART OF COMMUNICATING STRUCTURE

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 19, 2022

click YITRO 2022 for download THE ART OF COMMUNICATING STRUCTURE Humans in general, and children in particular, need structure and routine in order to thrive. A home with no structure, a house without written rules and clear expectations is a house that is destined to become chaotic, destined for power struggles. Without rules and expectations,…

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THE ART OF KICKSTARTING YOUR DAY

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 12, 2022

Click BESHALACH 2022  to download THE ART OF KICKSTARTING YOUR DAY The purpose of all Thinkingaboutme.org articles is to bring self-help from the parasha. I started writing with the belief my Rabbis taught me, when I started learning coaching 12 years ago: there is no such thing as a genuine self-help tool, that the Gentiles…

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THE ART OF CHANGING YOUR MAZAL

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 5, 2022

Click Bo 2022  for download THE ART OF CHANGING YOUR MAZAL Mazal is something that, Judaism believes, has a big impact on your life. The root of the word “mazal” is “nozel”, which implies that your fate flows from Above, through the Mazalot. (Zohar; Radak) Your Mazal will determine how long you will live. It…

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THE ART OF INTUITIVE INTELLEGENCE

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 29, 2021

click vaera 2021  to download THE ART OF INTUITIVE INTELLEGENCE One of the hardest things to understand about the Exodus story is – what was Pharaoh thinking? How did he have the emotional ability not to give in, after suffering such great plagues, each one worse than the next? The Torah answers that it was…

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THE ART OF BEING A NOBODY

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 22, 2021

Click SHEMOT 2021 for download THE ART OF BEING A NOBODY Modesty is something that many praise, but few focus on. What a shame, because modesty is one of the main ingredients in being calm. Western culture teaches, and Hollywood preaches, to despise modesty. They teach that modesty and success are antonyms, while modesty and…

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THE ART OF CHANGING THE WORLD

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 15, 2021

Click vayechi 2021 for download THE ART OF CHANGING THE WORLD There were people who changed the world forever, who saved, and keep saving, millions of lives, even after they are gone. The inventors of the three-point seat belt, vaccines, penicillin, the British mathematician who decoded the German military enigma code in WW2, the Russian…

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THE ART OF OVERCOMING

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 8, 2021

  Click vayigash 2021 for download THE ART OF OVERCOMING Parashat Vayigash is probably the most emotionally intense parasha in the whole Torah. And, I learnt about the most intense moment, only this year. At the climax of the story, Yehuda explains to his brother Yosef, who appears to be an intransigent Egyptian leader, how…

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THE ART OF BEING AN IVRI

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 1, 2021

click miketz 2021 for download THE ART OF BEING AN IVRI R Shimshon R. Hirsh writes that the first prophecy in the Torah was  יַ֤פְתְּ אֱלֹקים֙ לְיֶ֔פֶת וְיִשְׁכֹּ֖ן בְּאָֽהֳלֵי־שֵׁ֑ם Noach blessed his two sons, Shem and Yefet, with the following: May G-d expand Yafet, and may He dwell in the tents of Shem. The word…

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THE ART OF SEEING THE LIGHT

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 24, 2021

Click vayeshev 2021 for download THE ART OF SEEING THE LIGHT Ever noticed how all of the parashiot of Sefer Bereshit, from Lech Lecha, the time G-d promised Avraham that his descendants would be going down to Egypt, until it actually happened – all begin with the letter Vav? (Except three). וירא, ויצא, וישלח, וישב, ויגש,…

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THE ART OF BEING A FIGHTER

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 17, 2021

Click Vayishlach 2021 to download THE ART OF BEING A FIGHTER One of the strangest things that Yaakov ever did was to bow down to his brother Esav seven times. This was not just an ordinary meeting between two sibling rivals. This was symbolic of the meeting between the power of good, of light, of…

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THE ART OF BEING ANGELIC

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 10, 2021

click Vayetze 2021 for download THE ART OF BEING ANGELIC I just got back from walking the streets of Manhattan for an entire week, helping my father-in- law fundraise for his Yeshiva, Yeshivat Beer Yitzhak, in Telshestone.  When I got back to my apartment in Jerusalem, I asked myself, what is the difference between the…

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THE ART OF BEING AN ESHET CHAYIL

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 28, 2021

Click chaye sara 2021 to download THE ART OF BEING AN ESHET CHAYIL One of the greatest things I ever taught was the explanation of Eshet Hayil. There are many explanations of the Eshet Hayil. It was written by King Solomon, at the very end of Mishlei. It could be explained as the soul, (Malbim)…

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THE ART OF LIVING WITH G-D

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 13, 2021

Click lech lecha 2021 for download THE ART OF LIVING WITH G-D   I am so lucky to be a teacher of dikduk. Mastering the basics is the pathway to mastering the bookshelf and kavvana in prayer, on a whole new level. One of the questions that bothered me for years is, what is the…

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