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MORE PRECIOUS THAN PEARLS

By Yosef Farhi | May 30, 2020

MORE PRECIOUS THAN PEARLS SHAVUOTH by Rabbi Yosef Farhi There is a custom to read Megillath Ruth on Shavuoth. What is the meaning of this custom? There are different reasons. Here is a thought I had. Our Rabbis teach that a Talmid Hacham who is a mamzer deserves more respect than a Kohen Gadol who is a…

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THE ART OF DEPENDENCY

By Yosef Farhi | May 24, 2020

THE ART OF DEPENDENCY Parashat Bamidbar Each day, in the blessing before Shema, we pray to G-d that we be connected to Him and His Torah. We ask for this connection, in the merit of our ancestor’s Bitachon, their trust in G-d. בעבור אבותינו שבטחו בך … כי בשם קדשך הגדול הגבור והנורא בטחנו. In the…

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THE ART OF MEANINGFULNESS

By Yosef Farhi | May 17, 2020

THE ART OF MEANINGFULNESS Parashat Behar Behukotay by Rabbi Yosef Farhi The wisest of men taught us that there is always a deeper meaning to things than the way we experience them on a superficial level. As King Solomon taught הַכֹּ֥ל הוֹלֵ֖ךְ אֶל־מָק֣וֹם אֶחָ֑ד הַכֹּל֙ הָיָ֣ה מִן־הֶֽעָפָ֔ר וְהַכֹּ֖ל שָׁ֥ב אֶל־הֶעָפָֽר: And the following passuk states מִ֣י יוֹדֵ֗עַ…

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THE ART OF ALTRUISM

By Yosef Farhi | May 17, 2020

THE ART OF ALTRUISM Parashat Emor by Rabbi Yosef Farhi Rashi points out that right in the middle of the Torah’s detailed discussion of all the Jewish yearly Holidays and their respective laws and sacrifices, there is a law that seems to be unrelated to the subject. After speaking of the cutting of the barley…

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THE CHOICE OF EXTRAORDINARINESS

By Yosef Farhi | May 17, 2020

THE CHOICE OF EXTRAORDINARINESS Parashat Aharei Mot/ Kedoshim by Rabbi Yosef Farhi There are five choices that we can make that will decide if and how much we are productive, especially when bouncing back during times of crisis and challenge. Choice no. 1: Act on the Important; Don’t react to the urgent. Choice no. 2:…

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THE ART OF THIRD PERSON PERSPECTIVE

By Yosef Farhi | May 17, 2020

THE ART OF THIRD PERSON PERSPECTIVE Parashat Tazriah Metzorah by Rabbi Yosef Farhi In the ability to adapt to changes and bounce back from challenges, there are two lessons from this week’s Parashiot. One from Parashat Tazriah- the art of self-reflection. The other from Parashat Metzorah- the art of hope and reframing luck. The two…

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THE ART OF ADAPTING TO CHANGE

By Yosef Farhi | May 17, 2020

THE ART OF ADAPTING TO CHANGE Parashat Shemini by Rabbi Yosef Farhi We all like Seder, order. But life is not Seder. It never was and never will be. When life has no Seder, we are forced to think hard and make an internal Seder. I.e., we are forced to answer the hardest questions in…

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THE ART OF TRUSTING

By Yosef Farhi | Feb 6, 2020

click BESHALACH 2020 for download THE ART OF TRUSTING Parashat Beshalach I know that this sounds ridiculous, but did you ever return G-d a favor? He did, does, and will always do, so much good for you and your family. Or is it just impossible to do G-d a favor, for He does not lack anything…

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THE ART OF EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 30, 2020

click Bo 2020  for download THE ART OF EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE Parashat Bo Martin Seligman, the author of Learned Optimism and founder of modern-day Positive Psychology, writes that successful people are usually positive people. Positive people are masters at the three Ps. They believe that 1. Problems are not permanent. 2. Problems are not worse than they…

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THE ART OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 22, 2020

click vaera 2020 for download THE ART OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION Parashat Vaera Effective communication is the key to success in so many life areas. How do we improve our communication skills? Where does one start? An excellent place to begin is with the Meshech Hochma in this week’s Parasha. Moshe claimed to G-d that there…

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THE ART OF EMPATHY

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 16, 2020

click shemot 2020 for download THE ART OF EMPATHY Parashat Shemot וּמֹשֶׁ֗ה הָיָ֥ה רֹעֶ֛ה אֶת־צֹ֛אן יִתְר֥וֹ חֹתְנ֖וֹ כֹּהֵ֣ן מִדְיָ֑ן וַיִּנְהַ֤ג אֶת־הַצֹּאן֙ אַחַ֣ר הַמִּדְבָּ֔ר וַיָּבֹ֛א אֶל־הַ֥ר הָאֱלֹהִ֖ים חֹרֵֽבָה: And Moshe was shepherding his father in law Yitro’s flock, and he led the flock after the desert, and he came to the mountain of G-d in Horeb. (Shemot 3;1)…

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HOW TO SOLVE EVERYONE’S PROBLEMS

By Yosef Farhi | Jan 8, 2020

Click vayechi 2020 for dowload HOW TO SOLVE EVERYONE’S PROBLEMS Parashat Vayechi Unfortunately, we can’t solve most of the problems of most of the people in our lives. Unfortunately, there is only a certain amount of charity we can give, only a certain amount of extra time and energy we have. Unfortunately, there is only…

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THE ART OF BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 18, 2019

Click  for SUPER expanded vayeshev / Chanuka download THE ART OF BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF Parashat Vayeshev Honesty is a huge part of self- improvement. To be honest with yourself means to examine your personal narrative. Subconsciously, people tell themselves stories about themselves. Some stories are true, and some are not. Our stories came from different places,…

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THE ART OF RESILIENCE

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 11, 2019

Click Vayishlach for download THE ART OF RESILIENCE Parashat Vayishlach People that can keep their calm have what psychologists call resilience, or an ability to cope with problems and setbacks. A loss of a job, a breakup of a relationship, health issues, difficulties raising children… We can’t prevent such things from happening, but we can improve the…

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HOW TO CONTROL YOUR EGO

By Yosef Farhi | Dec 4, 2019

Click Vayetze 2019 for download HOW TO CONTROL YOUR EGO Parashat Vayetze A Jew once said to his Rebbe, “I want happiness”. The Rebbe said, First remove “I”, that’s Ego. And then remove “Want”, that’s Desire. See, now all your left with is Happiness! Once, someone sent the Lubavitcher Rebbe a letter. “I have no…

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 LOVE WHAT IS

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 27, 2019

click toldot 2019 final for download  LOVE WHAT IS Parashat Toldot The Chafetz Chaim once asked a certain Jew how he was doing. The man said, “It would not hurt if life were a bit better.” The Chafetz Chaim responded, “How could you possibly know that “it would not hurt” if life would be better?…

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Kindness – Inside Out

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 20, 2019

Click chaye sara 2019 for  download  Kindness – Inside Out Parashat Chaye Sarah R’ Chaim Vital, student of Arizal was quoted saying something that I hope I will never forget.  There are people who perform acts of kindness with everyone, but with their own families, they do not do kindness. They think to themselves that…

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SAVE THE MOMENT

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 13, 2019

Click vayera 2019 expanded for download SAVE THE MOMENT Parashat Vayera In 1974, Cat’s in the Cradle was the hit song of the day, a song that hit the cords of the hearts of many dads. Here are the lyrics – a real tear jerker. If you know the words, sing them again, so you…

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UNDERSTOOD. RESPECTED. LIKED.

By Yosef Farhi | Nov 6, 2019

click lech lecha 2019 for download UNDERSTOOD. RESPECTED. LIKED. Parashat Lech Lecha R Nissim Karelitz Zt”l was once asked the reason why some marriages are not blessed with  tranquility. Is it a budgeting issue? A cultural issue? Technology? A deficiency in communication skills? Conflict of interests, beliefs personalities, levels of religion? Or, maybe all of the above?…

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LEAD LIKE A LION

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 30, 2019

click noach 2019 for download LEAD LIKE A LION Parashat Noach Alexander the Great once said, I am not afraid of an army of lions led by a sheep; I am afraid of an army of sheep led by a lion. What are the qualities of lion-leadership, and what type of leaders are “sheep” leaders? A lion-hearted…

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A LIFE AT FULL THROTTLE

By Yosef Farhi | Oct 3, 2019

Click yom kippur 2019 for download A LIFE AT FULL THROTTLE Yom Kippur Are you going through life at the speed limits you set for yourself? Or are you at full throttle? This question has been going through my head over the last two months. And I am so grateful that it has. This is the “charged”…

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A HAPPY ELUL

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 19, 2019

click ki tavo 2019 for download A HAPPY ELUL Teshuva is a happy thing. If you are doing Teshuva and you are not happy, you are not really cashing in on all your benefits. Happiness is what changes the evil decree of sin. Happiness is what brings upon you G-d’s mercy. This is found in Rabbenu Bachye…

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A CALM ELUL

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 11, 2019

click ki tetze 2019 for download A CALM ELUL It has been said that one who says Psalm 27 every day in Elul is promised that he will live his full amount of allotted years and days in a good way, and he will overpower all the prosecuting angels against him, and will merit in judgement.(Siddur Arizal)…

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TWO WAYS TO TESHUVA

By Yosef Farhi | Sep 4, 2019

Click shoftim 2019 final to download TWO WAYS TO TESHUVA Parashat Shoftim I was looking for the switch that could take me – overnight – from summer break mode directly into Elul self-perfection mode. I found it. Yishai Ribo’s new song, called Seder HaAvodah, brought me to Elul mode. The music, enchanting. The words, tear jerking. ואם…

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YOU ARE WHAT YOU SAY

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 31, 2019

Click Mattot- Masei 2019 for download YOU ARE WHAT YOU SAY  Mattot   Your speech defines who you are. Like it or not. The Shlah Hakodosh wrote, the very saying Be’ezrat Hashem, Bsiyata Dishmaya, (with the help of Heaven,) before everything that you do, has in it the power to help you, and to make you successful,…

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WHY ME?

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 24, 2019

click pinhas – mattot 2019 for download WHY ME? Parashat Pinhas In his book, Learned Optimism, Martin Selegman, the forefather of modern-day positive psychology, breaks down positive thinking to 3 P’s.  Permanent – Is the problem/offense/issue at hand one that is permanent? Pervasive – Is the problem/offense/issue at hand perceived as bigger than it really is? Personal…

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THE POWER OF DESIRE

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 17, 2019

click balak pinhas  to download THE POWER OF DESIRE Parashat Balak My life’s passion is helping kids from all over the world, of all ages, to improve their reading skills in Hebrew and English. Helping them to focus, to enrich their comprehension, increase speed and to acquire a burning thirst for learning. One of the biggest problems…

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THE POWER OF THE JEWISH NATION

By Yosef Farhi | Jul 10, 2019

click hukat balak 2019 to download     THE POWER OF THE JEWISH NATION Hukat The commentators deal with the puzzling question of why Moshe lost his chance to bring the Jews into Israel, just because he hit a rock. The Torah says, יַ֚עַן לֹא־הֶאֱמַנְתֶּ֣ם בִּ֔י לְהַ֨קְדִּישֵׁ֔נִי לְעֵינֵ֖י בְּנֵ֣י יִשְׂרָאֵ֑ל לָכֵ֗ן לֹ֤א תָבִ֙יאוּ֙ אֶת־הַקָּהָ֣ל הַזֶּ֔ה אֶל־הָאָ֖רֶץ אֲשֶׁר־נָתַ֥תִּי…

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CONDUCTOR LEADERSHIP

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 19, 2019

Click Behaalotcha- Shelah 2019 to download CONDUCTOR LEADERSHIP Parashat Behaalotcha My mother sent me a speech given by a music conductor. This is what the conductor told his audience. “At the age of 45, I had already been conducting for more than 20 years, and suddenly, I was struck by this fascinating insight: the conductor of…

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The Self Help Addict

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 12, 2019

Click Naso- post Shavuot 2019 for download The Self Help Addict Parashat Naso There is an obvious question regarding Birkat Kohanim. If G-d wants to bless the people, why does He need to do so through the kohanim? Why does He need messengers? How could it be that a Gadol HaDor who is a Yisrael needs to…

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YETZER HARA LEMONADE

By Yosef Farhi | Jun 5, 2019

click Kabalat HaTorah 2019 to download YETZER HARA LEMONADE Erev Shavuot One of the greatest gifts G-d gave you in life is your Yetzer Hara. The Midrash teaches us, :”וַיַּרְא אֱלֹקים אֶת כָּל אֲשֶׁר עָשָׂה וְהִנֵּה טוֹב מְאֹד”- And G-d saw all that He made, and it was very good. ‘וְהִנֵּה טוֹב’- זה ‘היצר הטוב’. ‘וְהִנֵּה טוֹב…

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A CONNECTION TO G-D

By Yosef Farhi | May 29, 2019

click sefirat haomer 2019 for download A CONNECTION TO G-D One of the amazing things that happened to me in Miami was a conversation I had on the way to the airport with the Uber driver, an African American. “Are you a Rabbi?” I try to be. I try to help people get closer to their…

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A CONNECTION TO G-D

By Yosef Farhi | May 29, 2019

A CONNECTION TO G-D One of the amazing things that happened to me in Miami was a conversation I had on the way to the airport with the Uber driver, an African American. “Are you a Rabbi?” I try to be. I try to help people get closer to their Creator, through words of Torah.…

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BIRDFATE

By Yosef Farhi | May 26, 2019

BIRDFATE At the end of a thirteen-year cave life, R’ Shimon Bar Yochai sat at the entrance to what had been his “home”. He saw a hunter who was setting up a bird trap. The hunter scattered some seeds, so that birds would be attracted to the trap, going for the bait. R Shimon noticed…

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THE WORLD’S GREATEST ARTIST

By Yosef Farhi | May 15, 2019

click emor 2019 to download THE WORLD’S GREATEST ARTIST Sefirat Haomer I heard the most beautiful idea from my neighbor, Dan Gordon, one of the best landscapers in Jerusalem and a Shemitta specialist. This idea is an idea that one can meditate on for hours. Chana praised G-d, saying: אֵין קָדוֹשׁ כַּה’ כִּי אֵין בִּלְתֶּךָ, וְאֵין צוּר…

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