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EGGY RELATIONSHIPS
EGGY RELATIONSHIPS Parashat Acharei Mot Relationships are like eggs. You have to know how to handle them. Held too loosely, the egg can fall and break. Held too tightly, it can be crushed, and then you are left with the white and yellow gook all over your fingers. It is a delicate balance. Relationships…
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AN ONLY CHILD The Haggadah sings every year on the Seder night :כנגד ארבעה בנים דברה תורה : אחד חכם אחד רשע אחד תם ואחד שאינו יודע לשאול .The Torah referred to telling the story of the Exodus to four sons. One, the wise son. One, the evil son. One, the simple son. And one…
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LONG TERM MEMORY Everybody knows at least some of the mitzvot of Passover: clearing out the chametz from one’s home, eating matzah, and reciting the haggadah are mitzvot even some of the most assimilated Jews keep on some level. Less known, however, is the reason we perform these mitzvot: zecher leyitziat mitzrayim (remembering the miracles G-d…
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USELESS COMPUTERS The Kotsker was quoted saying the following: We say in the Haggadah – “חכם מה הוא אומר “ the wise son, what does he say?… Why doesn’t the Haggadah just say,” חכם אומר , the wise son says…”? The Kotsker answered, “You know that a person is a חכם , wise, by…
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WANTS IN SPRING BLOSSOM In the month of Nissan, we have a beautiful blessing: the unique blessing on the blossoming of the trees. This blessing is unique not only because it comes only once a year, but because of what it is that we are praising in this blessing.שלא חיסר בעולמו כלום וברא בו בריות…
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THE GOSSIP EXTINGUISHER Parashat Metzorah Usually, people gossip, not because they want to cause harm to other people , but because they need a topic of conversation. Nothing is juicier than gossip. Listening to gossip has the same severity as engaging in it. People often listen because they do not know how to stop the…
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The Afterlife Article Parashat Tzav I found that the best way for me to get used to speaking fluent Hebrew and to get familiar with Israeli slang and culture is by reading a Hebrew joke book and testing the jokes on Israeli kids. Jokes are short, so you can remember their exact wording, and this…
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+ or – Parashat Vayikra Probably the hardest part of coaching is getting started. How do you begin the conversation with the person you are coaching so that they will open up? Sometimes, a person knows what he wants, so he is much easier to coach. But, more often than not, people don’t know. They…
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A PASSIONATE THOUGHT Parashat Pekudei If you want to be successful at something, you need to be passionate about it. The greater the challenge to be successful, the more passion you need. Take two people. Both from similar backgrounds. Both with similar strengths and weaknesses. Both going through the same motions. Both going for the…
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BE DO HAVE Parashat Vayakhel Life decisions are complex. It is not the surrounding circumstances that make these life decisions complex. It is defining identity that is complex. For many people, the biggest life decision is marriage. Before any life decision one makes, one must know who he is, in order to be certain that…
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A G-D Like I.D. Parashat Ki Tisa SOME husbands believe that if they were richer, their wife would respect them more. If they could outsmart people, outdo her siblings or her friend’s husband, then their wife might love them more. There is no greater mistake a husband can make. A woman wants one thing from…
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ATTRACTING OPPOSITES Parashat Tezaveh Kids fight. Lots of kids, lots of fights. Simple math. It’s confusing for one parent to deal with fighting kids. Who is right and who is wrong? The truth is, it does not make a difference. Judging is a complex task, especially if we are talking about your own children. Which…
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A BAD IDEA Parashat Terumah P eople ask me how I manage to come up with an amazing article every week. Here is my secret. I don’t. I come up with an article that is not so great. And then I change it. I tweak it ’til it’s better. And then change it again. Each…
Read MoreA LESSON FROM HELLEN
A LESSON FROM HELLEN Parshat Mishpatim H elen Keller once said, “Hearing loss is a worse misfortune than being blind. When you lose your vision, you lose contact with things; but when you lose your hearing, you lose contact with people.” In the words of our Sages, this is true, to a degree. The Talmud…
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SHOULDN’T SAY SHOULD Parshat Yitro A re you able to find humor in life? Do you go a whole day without laughing? Being funny is not a goal in the eyes of the Torah, but laughing things off is. Laughing things off is a skill. You can learn it, once you understand some basic things…
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CONFIDENCE … THE REAL THING Parashat Beshalach I got a phone call from an old friend last week. “Yosef, you have a minute?” I said yes. “Can you tell me how I can build up self confidence in my 6th grade son who is failing in school?” Some things just can’t be done in one…
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CONFIANZA … ES LA VERDADERA REALIDAD Recibí una llamada telefónica de un viejo amigo la semana pasada. “Yosef, tienes un minuto?”, le dije que sí. “¿Puedes decirme cómo puedo hacer que mi hijo de sexto grado, que está fallando en la escuela, adquiera confianza en sí mismo?” Hay cosas que no pueden lograrse instantáneamente, no…
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A WORDLESS There is one thing you can do to your child that is worse than smacking him in the face. There is one thing that will drive your spouse to distraction, even more than getting into a fight. This one thing is probably the most powerful relationship-tool you have. It can also build…
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UN PENSAMIENTO SIN PALABRAS Hay una cosa que puedes hacerle a tu hijo peor que darle una bofetada en su cara; hay algo que perturbará a tu esposa más que una pelea. Esta cosa probablemente es la herramienta para las relaciones más poderosa que tienes. También puede construir relaciones, confianza y hacerte ver como una…
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A LETTER FROM G-D Read the next few lines, and then close your eyes for a minute. When your eyes are closed, try to picture a letter in an envelope, handed to you by a stranger. The stranger shows you his ID card. Eliyahu Hanavi. He tells you that in this envelope is a letter…
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UNA CARTA DE DI-S Lee las siguientes líneas y luego cierra tus ojos por un minuto. Una vez que ya hayas cerrado tus ojos intenta imaginar que un extraño te está entregando una carta en un sobre. El extraño te muestra su identificación, es Eliahu Hanaví, y te dice que en ese sobre hay…
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WHAT, THEN HOW Do you know what is the most important thing that G-d gave you, possibly your greatest resource for success? It is something that can get you out of most of life’s problems, something that can bring you the success that you are looking for in life, something that is probably the…
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Qué y después cómo ¿Sabes cuál es el obsequio más importante que Di-s te otorgó y, probablemente, el más grande recurso en tu poder para prosperar? Es algo que te puede sacar de la mayoría de los problemas de la vida, algo que te puede ayudar a lograr el éxito que esperas en tu…
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ART OF APOLOGY Erev Yom Kippur, I witnessed something very sad. The Jewish Law is that Yom Kippur cleanses only sins between Man and G-d. But if you sinned against a fellow Jew, after Yom Kippur you will still have that sin on your records – unless you ask for forgiveness. You need to…
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El arte de pedir perdón En la víspera de Iom Kipur fui testigo de una escena muy triste. Como es sabido, la Ley judía indica que Iom Kipur limpia sólo los pecados entre la persona y Di-s; pero los cometidos contra el prójimo quedan registrados aun después de Iom Kipur, a menos que uno…
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HACHAM OVADIA’S SECRET MEMORY TECHNIQUE What is the earliest memory you have of your life? I’ll bet that the first memory you have from your childhood has to do with some emotion. Some kids not letting you play with their blocks. Or getting upset that it rained on Purim, and your Purim costume got…
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La técnica secreta del Rav Ovadia para optimizar su memoria ¿Cuál es el primer recuerdo que conservas de tu vida? Apuesto que la primera memoria de tu infancia se trata de algo sentimental; de niños que no te dieron lugar a jugar con los bloques o de haberte enojado porque llovió en Purim y…
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A PITIFUL THOUGHT In a talk that I had recently with a teenager, I asked him how he spends his spare time. When he answered “being bored”, we took the topic farther. I asked him how he would feel if he discovered that he would be bored for the rest of his life. 24/7. …
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Lamentables pensamientos En una conversación que recientemente tuve con un adolescente, le pregunté cómo pasa su tiempo libre. Su respuesta “aburriéndome”, me instó a seguir más allá. Le pregunté cómo se sentiría si habría de descubrir que terminaría aburrido por el resto de su vida. Él se tomó un minuto y medio para considerar la…
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AN UNSETTLING THOUGHT Life can be extremely frustrating. Or, if you wish, extremely fascinating. Depends on how positively you perceive things. As a coach, I do not waste time watching movies, and not only for religious reasons. I watch real-life movies. If one wastes his time watching those fake films, he misses out on…
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Disfrutando de la película – Un inquietante pensamiento La vida puede ser muy frustrante o, si así lo deseas, algo muy fascinante. Todo depende de cuán positivamente percibas las cosas. En mi rol de “coach”, no pierdo tiempo viendo películas, aunque no fuere sólo por motivos religiosos. Pues yo miro películas de la vida…
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THE HAPPIEST MAN I KNOW There is an old Swedish saying, “Those who wish to sing always find a song.” Happiness is like wanting to sing. Once you wish to be happy, you will find something to be happy about. Happiness is more an active decision than a state of being. You do not…
Read Morespanish vaishlaj 2013
La persona más feliz que conozco Existe un antiguo dicho sueco: “aquel que desea cantar, siempre encuentra una canción”. La felicidad es como querer cantar; si deseas estar feliz entonces encontrarás un motivo para estarlo. La felicidad es más bien una decisión activa que un estado de humor. Uno no necesita esperar que las…
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SULAM TO SUCCESS Yaakov had a dream. A ladder. Two feet standing sturdily on the ground, with the top touching the sky. Angels climbing up and down. There are different interpretations of this dream. One of them is that the angels were going up and down in Yaakov עולים ויורדים בו ביעקב ולא בסולם.…
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La escalera del éxito Iacov soñó con una escalera; una escalera con el pie firme en la tierra y la cabeza tocando el cielo. Los ángeles subían y bajaban por esta escalera. Hay varias interpretaciones para este sueño; una de ellas es que los ángeles subían y bajaban dentro de Iacov (עולים ויורדים בו…
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